Kink and fetish: Whats the difference?
For the vanilla, there is not a difference between having a kink and having a fetish. The two terms are often interchangeable, though they truly are not one and the same. A kink is added into sex to improve it, such as using a whip, or wearing a costume for roleplay. A fetish on the other hand is something needed to get sexual fulfillment. Make sense yet? Well, lets get into it further, shall we?

Kink is a very broad term that covers many different points of sexuality under one umbrella. A kink in general is any object/act added to sex, for example it could be someones kink to be tied up during sex. Another example would be some one being turned on by them or their partner wearing leather or latex clothing as a costume during intercourse. A current popular kink these days is male chastity, where a mans penis is put in a cage making it physically impossible to get an erection. These are all just examples of some things that people like to add into their sex.
A fetish is a bit murkier to really nail down. For example, a person could have a fetish for being tied up. This is different for this situation because in this scenario the person is either getting their sexual gratification mainly from being tied up, or they may be unable to reach climax without the involvement of rope or being tied up. The case could be the same for someone with a leather or latex fetish. For them, climax is impossible without one of the aforementioned types of material. Or a person could have a fetish for keeping their partners penis from becoming erect, and cannot receive sexual gratification until having denied it for someone else.
Hopefully this has helped clear up the difference between a kink and a fetish. Just because someone enjoys a certain kink, it does not mean they necessarily have a fetish for that type kink. Though there are those that have a fetish for certain kinks. So every kink can be a fetish, while not every fetish is always a kink. Some people have a popping fetish, where they receive sexual gratification from the act of popping a balloon or bubble gum. For anyone one looking to explore their kinky side, the Fetish Fantasy line from Pipedream covers just about any kink that could be conjured up. So go on then, get kinky with it.

Ginger Bear


Anal Sex: The ins and outs.
Congratulations on the decision to explore the sexual options of butt stuff. Anal sex can be scary to newcomers, but it does not have to be. There are benefits to engaging in anal play for both men and women. For example, how else can the prostate be milked? With a little lube, the right toys, and the right attitude, the experience can turn from “Ouch!”, to “Oooh!”.
Many men are turned off immediately by anything entering their backdoor. It can be foreign, taboo, confusing, and at least a little bit scary. The same can be said for women as well. It does not have to be like that though. The first hurdle that must be crossed is the nervousness and apprehension related to the act. The more nervous a person is, the more likely they are to tighten the anus, and this is counter productive to having anal sex, so always remember to just relax.
Lubricant is everyone's best friend when it comes to taking the back entrance. The main lubricant of choice for anal sex is the silicone variety. While there are water based options that will get the job done, the silicone lube is still going to much slicker, and safer as it puts a protective seal on the skin. This protective seal helps prevent tearing and irritation. Some of the lubricants also have added ingredients to help the process go that much more smoothly. For example, the Pjur Backdoor and the Swiss Navy Premium Silicone Anal Lubricant both use ingredients to help relax the back end and make things more comfortable. Another tip would be to try using cooling silicone lube, such as the Wicked Ultra Chill. This makes it so that the silicone still protects, while the cooling sensation takes the mind off of the act. If silicone lube is not something that can be used due to allergy or sensitivity issues, a good grab is the JO H2O Anal, as it comes out more thickly and has a few added ingredients to help the lube maintain slickness.
For men the benefit of anal exploration is simply the pleasure brought on by stimulating the prostate. For beginners it can be intimidating picking out which product to use. There are many choices, for men though a great place to start is the Dr. Joel Kaplan line. Dr. Joel has a whole line of prostate massaging toys that are excellent at getting the job done.
For the women, the benefits are different. Of course it is always better to start small, and then work up to the bigger toys. Pleasure is received by the pressure placed on the g-spot from above, as well as the pressure placed upon the walls of the vagina. To this end, a plug during intercourse, for example, will maximize the pleasure received while a partner is entering vaginally. Calexotics and Doc Johnson both sell great kits for beginners, though buying steel plugs is always best. Steel is hypoallergenic, non-porous, easy to clean, and will last a lifetime. The real benefit of steel though is in the weight, and the increased pressure from said weight. The company Rouge makes a fantastic line of steel plugs that can take a person from beginner, to ass master, in no time at all.
There is of course much more that can go into this, and a person for that matter. Though it is hoped that this little guide has been helpful for any one considering whether to answer the knock on the back door. Just remember to relax, lube up, and bring a good toy along for the ride. Check those boxes, and filling your own boxes will be a breeze!
Ginger Bear

Don't be afraid to let your freak flag fly!!

Intimate Ideas nervous in the store

One of the most common things we notice in the adult retail industry is people being afraid or nervous in the store. Some people won't make eye contact, others won't even speak. It does not have to be that way though! Just keep a few basic truths in mind when going to open the door to any adult store. Nothing will surprise the person behind the counter with anything you could ask for.

The stores are always a judgment free zone. The stores are a professional retail establishment, the clerks are well versed in product knowledge and will be willing and able to help ensure a productive and fulfilling shopping experience.
When entering most adult stores, it can be assumed that the person behind the register has seen and heard it all. Just as a florist knows flowers, adult store clerks know sex and just about anything that can go into it. While shopping for any adult product it is always best to take advantage of the clerks knowledge by asking any questions that pop up. The more questions that are asked won't bother the clerks, its their job to help make sure everyone gets what they need and goes home happy. So please, don't be shy! Just go ahead and ask any question that comes to mind.

Each and every adult store is a safe haven and a judgment free zone for all customers. No matter the gender, race, physical capabilities, or any other factor that goes into being a human individual. Absolutely never will a clerk kink shame, or allow it to happen in the store. There are two separate reasons for the lack of judgment, and the encouragement of being kinky. The majority of the sex toy industry, and adult industry as a whole, are very pro LGBTQ+, and some
often try to make donations to local charities and organizations set up to support said communities. Finally, adult stores are for adults, no matter who that adult is, what they may look like, what they may get off too, or even what language they speak, because they are professional environments that treat all humans with the respect and dignity they deserve.

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As mentioned above, adult stores are still professional retail environments. This means that when you enter, you should always be greeted by a friendly, smiling face. The clerks are well trained in product knowledge and usage, and often eager to help. To repeat an earlier sentiment, ask questions as they come to you, and do not be nervous. As far as the clerk is concerned, they could be working at a hardware store selling hammers and nails. To the clerk, what a customer may call taboo, they call everyday topics, and their goal is just to send every customer home happy and with exactly what they need. Let that freak flag fly, tall and proud!

Intimate Ideas - Let that freak flag fly

So don't be nervous, or scared, or ashamed when walking through the doors of adult stores. A customer should be confident that they are going to a store just like any other. Where there are friendly clerks, willing to help however they can. Customers walk into a place that is meant to be fun, and enjoyable. A place where a person can relax in their own skin, with the knowledge that no one there will care at all what they are purchasing. Just remember, were all humans, humans are diverse, and human sexuality is even more diverse, that diversity is celebrated, respected, and encouraged by the adult industry. So go visit a local adult retail establishment, relax, and have a
great time.

Ginger Bear

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